How often do you and your partner discuss relationship issues? Do you shrink from conflict or try to resolve it? Which is the better strategy? In a recent study, researchers surveyed 98 same-sex couples and found that confronting conflict directly is the best option, but how the conflict is approached is important and can lead to a more committed and healthy relationship
In general, couples who are more willing to talk about their conflicts in a constructive manner through timely communication and proposing solutions to move forward, are also more likely to put effort into this task, grow as a couple and be committed to each other. Conversely, couples who manage conflict poorly, create negative emotions in the relationship and create partners who are less willing to resolve conflict and commit to the relationship.
The study suggests that avoiding conflict is not the answer, but that improving communication skills is important and helps to build resilient couples. Do you have great conflict resolution and communication skills to share with another couple or do you need help with this issue? Click here to learn more about joining the Q Marriage Mentors Program.
Ogolsky, B. G., & Gray, C. R. (2016). Conflict, negative emotion, and reports of partners’ relationship maintenance in same-sex couples. Journal Of Family Psychology, 30(2), 171-180. doi:10.1037/fam0000148